Dating a heroin addict forum
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Falling In Love With an addict - Heroin Addiction and Recovery Discussion Forum
When you lose a child, there will always be an empty chair at the holiday table. The emotional pain of drug addiction gets magnified during the holidays. When your child is struggling with drugs, it can be sad, hopeful, frustrating — all at once. How do you deal with this emotion and still help your child? How can you tell if your adult child is using drugs?
He dosnt live with me but he and his wife are constantly broke. Thanks for your message Kay. We have forwarded your message to one of our helpline specialists who can help better answer your question, and she will be reaching out to you shortly.
Falling In Love With an addict
Feel free to connect with us in whichever manner you choose in the future: My daughter now 27 has been struggling with addiction since around the age of She steals, lies, overdoses but she also tries to get and stay sober. Currently she is incarcerated because her bond was revoked bond from a previous issue of stealing due to overdosing on New Years Day which nearly took her life.
She had court on January 2 this was her final pre-trial and was to probably be sentenced to some time in jail. I feel as if she was trying to find a way out from it because she feared going back to jail. She had previously in been sent to jail for 31 days. After her overdose on Jan 1, she did appear at court on Jan 2. As I said, her bond was revoked and due to the overdose. During her active use both in and , she broke the law by stealing and was out on the street using daily.
I feared for her life and decided it was better to have her arrested than dead. Although I know it has probably prolonged her life, I also feel a tremendous amount of guilt for doing so and I wonder did I do the right things to save her life at least for a little longer. Thanks for your message Kim. Please leave a comment below to contribute to the discussion. If you have a specific question, please contact a Parent Specialist , who will provide you with one-on-one help.
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January 9, at QueenStreets, Welcome to our drug addiction discussion forum. For starters, I truly respect your openness and transparency regarding your feelings and relationship with someone who struggles with heroin addiction. The reality is, someone who suffers from addiction is not a bad person… they are sick. An addict may do some bad things in order to obtain their drug of choice depending on the circumstances. A man you are speaking about sounds like a very nice guy, a gentleman and seems to care about you deeply.
The problem is, when somebody suffers from addiction, they care more about their drug of choice than I do about anything or anyone else. They will always put their drug of choice above anything or anyone. Therefore, even if he falls in love with you, and maybe he already did, he will still always put heroin and his desire to obtain it above his relationship with you.
However, you can control your actions and what you do and who you choose to hang around with. In my honest and serious opinion, I would proceed with extreme caution. Perhaps if this man truly loves you, he will get clean and sober for you. Do you know for a fact that he allegedly is administered heroin at a clinic or is that just something he told you? That said, anyone who is still using heroin, and since you said yourself that he is using heroin at a clinic and also using it at home, he does not appear to be trying to get clean.
He is just simply still using. My concern is if you get more involved with him than you are, that things are going to get really slippery real fast. What say you to decide to run away together and get a place together or move in together or however you want to play it, you will run the risk of him potentially overdosing and dying on a regular basis.
You also have to deal with him using most of not all of the finances for his drug and you will never get to use money for anything you want or anything constructive… It will always be reserved, set aside or stolen out of the account for more drugs. No the brain can heal once addiction is put into remission, but in order for that to happen, he will have to stop using heroin all together. The reason why Suboxone and methadone work for some people is because it is a replacement of sorts… But it is weaker, and it actually takes away the cravings for heroin in addition to not feeling like you need more methadone or Suboxone either.
My journey with a Heroin addict
So to me, the whole concept of administering heroin at a clinic even if the idea is to taper them down is ridiculous because they will still likely continue to get heroin elsewhere and they will never really be tapering down. They will just take more of it outside of the clinic when they are taking less of it inside the clinic. Anyway, I really appreciate you sharing your story here and your genuine feelings.
I know you have feelings for this man now, but I would seriously wait for him to be clean and sober with no heroin in his system before you seriously date him. Peace and love, William.
I do my best to educate myself regarding addiction and recovery related issue, treatment options, etc. All opinions are my own and any advice you take from me is at your own risk and discretion. Thank you so much for you're response, it's really nice to hear something more positive then what I usually hear. We're having an epidemic up here right now because of fentenyal people are trying to urge the Canadian government to have everybody access this program who are opioid users. I know he is actually on this program.
I'm trained to administer naloxone and I have my first aid as I attend to overdoses quiet often, it's part of what I do. I really appreciate everything that you have said thank you. Last edited by QueenStreets ; , Queen streets, I have many friends still using and I hate that I don't have a relationship with them much anymore, however you need to do what's best for you long term. We make plans to see each other and he seems excited but then when the time comes, he will avoid me Because he needs to have his fix if he doesn't nothing else matters sorry to say however I am usually pretty blunt about any topic.
Why would he want to try and make plans then? Queenstreets, Unfortunately, there's really no way to know for sure as we don't know him. But I guarantee that it will be incredibly worth it! And YOU are worth it!!! Hey just come on to say hi! I still have moments but not much tears anymore life is going well long may it continue!
What a fabulous update, my friend!!! I'm soooooo happy for you!!! Doing things to help yourself physically. I'm so glad you're on a journey about YOU now! Thanks for sharing such good news with us!! You are very welcome, eallen!